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Homeowner refuses to hand over garage to friend, supports: ‘It’s your house’

Members of a popular internet forum were quick to defend a homeowner who refused to let his friend who lives there use his garage space.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITeA******, Redditor u/apajipet (aka Original Poster or OP) said that they are the sole owner of the house where the couple lives, and pointed to her possessions as justification for keeping her garage to herself.

Captioned: “[Am I the a******] for using the single garage for my own car?” The post received almost 7,500 upvotes and more than 1,500 comments in the last day.

“My boyfriend recently complained to me about the fact that I use my single garage for my car year-round,” OP began. “We live in a city with harsh winters and relatively high rates of vehicle theft, so using the garage is certainly a privilege.”

OP went on to explain that they bought their home outright and are legally responsible for all payments related to the home, saying her boyfriend pays half of the couple’s monthly electric and grocery bills but “not a dime on anything else.”

OP also said they make significantly more money than her boyfriend and described her reaction to complaints about the garage they pay for.

“I was really shocked when that came up in conversation,” the OP wrote.

“I felt it was very fair that I use the garage since I bought it and the car in it,” OP continued. “If he lives here practically for free and has a car of similar value that didn’t cost him anything to buy.”

“Am I wrong in not wanting to share this garage use at all?” OP added, asking the forum’s 4.8 million members for advice.

For many couples, moving in together is an equally exciting and important step in building a future together.

But as with most partnerships—whether romantic, family, or professional—financial troubles can quickly shake up harmonious relationships and dampen any earlier excitement.

Couple arguing about garage space.
Couple arguing about garage space. Members of Reddit’s r/AmITeA****** forum defended a homeowner who refused to give up his single garage to his friend where he lived.
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And while there are a handful of tried-and-true ways for couples to split household expenses down the middle or proportionately based on each partner’s income, unresolved money issues often lead to a breakup somewhere down the line.

When it comes to money, says financial therapist Amanda Clayman news week that couples must apply five key principles to ensure discussions don’t end in destruction.

“It has to be fair … which means both partners have equal power in the decision-making process,” Clayman said. “It has to be inclusive, meaning both people are involved. No one can opt out or be pushed out.

“It has to be transparent, which means there’s access to information… and the last two are flexibility and sustainability,” she added.

Although certain agreed-upon agreements work for some couples, there is no guarantee that these agreements will work forever.

In scenarios like the one described by OP, where a partner is upset about how they’re being affected by a set financial arrangement, couples need to be able to adjust accordingly — or risk ruining their relationship.

“Flexibility means that as needs or the situation change, there is a capability to review previous agreements,” Clayman said. “And to be able to receive that in the relationship so that it doesn’t have a corrosive effect.

“Resentment has a very corrosive effect on our relationships and our connections with other people,” she continued. “So it’s incredibly important that where the grudges fester, we come back and bring that back…[to] where it can be discussed and processed and hopefully repaired and healed.”

In a series of updates made to the viral post’s comments section, OP expressed a strong desire to repair any damage done to their relationship by stopping her boyfriend from using her garage.

u/apajpet said so too news week They believe that reconciliation is possible.

“I want to try to clear things up because I don’t see these problems as insurmountable,” OP said. “I’m optimistic, although the whole situation is a bit sad.”

However, Redditors who responded to the post didn’t share the same optimism.

“You pay for everything for the house and split the expenses… what exactly does yours do [boyfriend] Besides bringing demands to the table?” asked Redditor u/Jenniw3g in the top comment of the post, which has received more than 11,000 upvotes. “He seems a bit entitled.”

Redditor u/penguin_squeak, whose comment received more than 2,000 upvotes, offered a similar answer.

“It’s your house. It’s your garage,” they wrote. “The question is why you shouldn’t park your car [the] Garage by the house you own?”

“I don’t even understand what he’s suggesting here,” chipped in Redditor u/RNH213PDX, receiving more than 3,000 upvotes. “I suspect once you park it in the garage you’ll never be able to park there again.”

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